When we go out job hunting, especially when we are just starting out, it can be an incredibly daunting task and a job rejection can take a huge toll on your mental wellbeing.
That night I went to bed and the interviews kept on replaying in my head, but this time, the thoughts were accompanied with where I could of went ‘wrong’.
The next morning, I was tired, I felt pretty defeated, but this wasn’t the first job rejected I had had. So, I knew I needed to do my best to shake it off as I could probably go on and on and replay the interview over and over in my head until I had made up something that was so far from the truth.
I reminded myself that maybe they were looking for someone with experience in a certain industry, function, or region that I didn’t have.
Maybe they liked the other candidate’s writing style, thought process, or approach to the role a little more.
In sports, there are winners and losers, the lines are usually pretty clear. In the talent market, not so much.
Am I a loser because I didn’t get the job? Who knows? Maybe the job would have been horrible, maybe the person who would have sat next to me only ate tuna or egg sandwiches. Who really knows?
When I didn’t or, when you don’t get a job you think you want, the job you think is the perfect fit, you have to trust in a higher power – God or Mother Nature, the Universe or the laws of physics – and, most importantly, you have to trust yourself.
We are programmed to think that when we lose out on something, it’s bad. We think we failed. We forget that if our path were just an endless series of wins, we would never learn anything. We would never appreciate anything, either. We would never reflect. Maybe you won this round, but you don’t know it yet!
The right job is going to show up. If you beat yourself up every time you don’t get a job you interviewed for, you will drive yourself crazy. There is a saying that goes, “If you live by people’s compliments, you will die by their criticism.” Rise up, and don’t be too hard on yourself when a job opportunity goes south.